A Cisgender White Male Christian Learns About Feminism
// August 11th, 2015 // No Comments » // Articles
I received a reply one day on Facebook where I had posted a comment in a discussion: “Well, you’re a cisgender white male, you wouldn’t understand!” Actually, I didn’t understand; I had no idea what a “cisgender” was. So I looked it up. Basically it means that I identify mentally and emotionally with the gender of my body, in contrast to those who feel personally that they do not, e.g. a male personality in a female body.
As a Christian I feel that it is my duty to love everyone, as I have made clear in the past. In some ways we can love unconditionally without prior thought, but in other ways I believe understanding leads to greater love. In this case, I felt like I may be perceived as the enemy for things I was born with (male, white, cis) and what I chose to believe about God. So, I asked my friends that consider themselves feminists this question:
Most of the things about myself I can’t really change; I was born like this. I did want to ask then, what feminists would like me to do personally. I know I can’t understand what it’s like to be other than how I am, but is there something I can do? Is there something you expect from people like me? What can I do to not be part of the problem? Is there room in your worldview for me? Where do I fit in? I don’t want to be the enemy just because of who I am.
Two of my friends, Rachel and Sonni, took me up on the offer. Their responses were well reasoned and kind. Here’s what I learned. (more…)